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Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Thursday, 29th June 2006 @ 5:21 AM

Examples of Inner Conflicts LOSE WEIGHT OR EAT WHAT AND AS MUCH AS I WANT? Say one part of use wants to lose weight or create a healthier body and the other wants to eat whatever and whenever it likes. Let us call part A, "health conscious" and part B, "pleasure seeking". So we try to answer the above questions. 1. About what part ¨"A" – The Health Conscious one feels: Some answers might be: a. Shame or self-rejection beca... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Thursday, 29th June 2006 @ 4:11 AM

We occasionally experience internally conflicting needs, desires or beliefs. In such inner conflicts, when our "sub-personalities" or "personas" have conflicting needs, we are not sure what to do or which decision to make. Some examples of those conflicts are listed below. As you read through them, consider whether or not you have any similar conflicts. SOME SAMPLE CONFLICTS Let us look at some examples of the inner conflicts that may disturb our peace. <... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Kathy Gates @ Wednesday, 28th June 2006 @ 7:52 AM

This week I was sitting on the phone with tech support, and over and over again, I thought of things I could have done while I sat there -- waiting -- not living my life. Are you “on hold” in your life? Are you waiting for a spouse to come along, or for him/her to act better towards you? Are you waiting on the motivation to get your home organized? Are you waiting on a great job to fall into your lap? Are you waiting on winning the lottery to plan your retirement? Sto... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Kunbi Korostensky @ Wednesday, 28th June 2006 @ 6:59 AM

Does the expression "birds of a feather flock together" or "like and like attracts each other" say anything to you? If it does, you may not have linked the saying to yourself and to the kind of people you have around you. If you truly want prosperity, happiness and success, it is imperative to be aware of the people you attract and surround yourself with. You cannot aim for exceptional transformation in your life, while continuing to keep with the old gang of mediocrity o... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Wednesday, 28th June 2006 @ 1:49 AM

As with all goals we simply need to realize the obstacles towards letting go our resentment and then forgiveness is natural. Forgiveness, love and peace are our natural inner qualities. They are obstructed only when our beliefs and fears cause us to engage in various emotional defense mechanisms. Thus, by methodically removing each such belief and emotion, forgiveness and love become our natural state. Here is a process we use in our self-knowledge seminars. A. List the persons... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Kimberly King @ Tuesday, 27th June 2006 @ 11:32 PM

Being a strong change catalyst is critical to being an effective mentor. In order to “inspire others to continually strive for higher levels of performance through creative and strategic methods that are always focused to achieving your goals” you must move through the personal emotions that change creates so that you can effectively lead others. Here are some critical suggestions for assisting you in developing strong change management skills in order to assist the organization through transi... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Tuesday, 27th June 2006 @ 11:49 AM

Confusion about Responsibility in Relationships Many negative emotions are the result of confusion concerning "who is responsible for whose reality." If we believe that others are responsible for our reality and how we feel, and they do not "create" our reality as we would like it to be or do not give us what we want, we feel hurt, bitter, disillusioned, powerless, fearful, resentful, angry, and even hateful. When we believe that we are responsible for their realit... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Tuesday, 27th June 2006 @ 1:55 AM

The Difference Between the Motive, Effort and Result We suggest that you read the previous part of this series. We need to make an important distinction here between our good will and making an effort to help someone, or accepting their effort to help us, and accepting responsibility for each other’s reality. We all obviously are together to help and support each other on all levels. This is what relationships are all about. We cannot, however, create the others’ h... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Monday, 26th June 2006 @ 2:26 AM

While employing EFT for important issues, purposes and goals various underlying or parallel aspects may surface which may seem more intense and requiring attention. In such circumstances we would do well to direct our attention to these until they are either totally collapsed or significantly less than other apparent aspects. We should, however, keep a mental or written list of «unfinished business» with any emotions, thoughts, beliefs or forms of resistance which may have appeared in ou... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Saleem Rana @ Monday, 26th June 2006 @ 1:15 AM

I see you now. You’re sitting there at your computer, surfing the net, feeling a heaviness in your chest. It’s late evening. Outside the window, the moon has again drifted behind the clouds. The clock in the right hand corner of your screen is marking away the passing hours. You know that you should be in bed. Tomorrow is going to be another long day. Still, you’re there thinking: “It’s not even the money. It’s the freedom. It’s the freedom to just s... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Tristan Loo @ Sunday, 25th June 2006 @ 3:27 AM

I am a firm believer that there is no greater self-help or self-exploration tool than a journal. That’s right—a simple blank book and a pen can help you manifest millions of dollars. It can help you identify goals. It can ease emotional pain or grief. It can transport you back in time. The journal is a physical manifestation of the contents within your own mind and heart. In this article, I am going to list some basic techniques and guidelines to follow when journaling. Your life is... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Anne Hartley @ Sunday, 25th June 2006 @ 3:13 AM

When I was younger I mistook self indulgence for self-love. I would give myself massages or buy myself something that made me feel good and I genuinely believed I was loving myself. While it is nice to treat ourselves to luxuries, we need to understand that is all they are. At another life stage I thought self-love was being able to speak up for myself and handle confrontation. This is a great skill to acquire and is a part of loving ourselves, but we need to do more. Like most peop... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Sunday, 25th June 2006 @ 2:33 AM

In order to love, accept and feel unity with loved ones and other important persons in our lives, we will need to overcome all inner obstacles. We might be talking here about love partners, children, parents, siblings or even friends or coworkers. Before explaining this process, I would like to point out that we very likely will need to also engage in this same process towards loving and accepting ourselves if we are in order to succeed in loving others in this way. This is true because o... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Thursday, 22nd June 2006 @ 1:18 AM

The goal of improved self-esteem or feelings of self-worth requires a methodical and dedicated process. We must first determine our main obstacles towards accepting and loving ourselves just as we are and towards feeling that we deserve a good, healthy and happy life. Below you will find some possible obstacles. In which situations do you lose your sense of self-love, self-worth, self- esteem or self-acceptance? A. Social programming - illusion 1. When oth... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Thursday, 22nd June 2006 @ 1:11 AM

EFT, Emotions, Resistance & Affirmations As we work on getting free from emotions, we will often observe that what we feel or what is bothering us changes and eludes us. In such cases, we might find it beneficial to flow with those changes addressing each obstacle as it appears. We must however always have in mind the unresolved emotions, aspects and issues and return to check them and resolve them. We can work on getting free from emotions in various ways. Some might be: <... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By stan lewis @ Wednesday, 21st June 2006 @ 8:50 AM

There are so many lost people in the world who do not really know where they are in life. There is no mentor, Christian life coach, leadership coach or anyone else to guide them. Of those who are aware of where they are in life, there are multitudes that are not at all happy with their present location in life. That leads me to ask several questions. Are you lost or do you know what your life’s address is? And if you do know your address, is it the address that you want? If you are fee... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Wednesday, 21st June 2006 @ 5:09 AM

A wise teacher once said, " No appointments, no disappointments." We experience these somewhat similar emotions when we have created expectations concerning what we will receive from others, God, life or even from ourselves. We might also feel such emotions concerning our own abilities or efforts when we are unable to achieve the goals we desire. We feel this way when things do not happen the way we expected, or more often, when others are not who we expected them to be. ... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Wednesday, 21st June 2006 @ 2:39 AM

All indications and logical deductions point to the belief that meditation on the part of large numbers of people in our society will have a very positive effect. Let us consider in the light of what we have already learned about the benefits of meditation, how meditation may affect some of the main sources of chaos, disruption and unhappiness in our society today. 1. CONFUSION - Few people today are not confused. Very few know what they want; what is right; what is wrong; what to do wit... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Sunday, 18th June 2006 @ 4:06 AM

Our main question for each is «what do I need to learn here in order to feel better or solve my problem or become more effective in creating what I really want in my life? This is the greatest gift we can give our selves, our clients or friends. John and Barbara have three children in junior and senior high school. Their house is the site of frequent battles concerning how much the children need to study and what grades are acceptable. The main battle is with their youngest child, Pet... more...

Personal Development » Coaching | By Robert Elias Najemy @ Saturday, 17th June 2006 @ 1:04 AM

If we really want to help people regardless of our credentials whether as a psychologist, counselor, life coach, doctor or friend we will need to as much as possible embody the following (we are using the word subject in the place of the words patient or client): 1. Care for the other and sincerely desire to help him or her. The subject will feel if we really care or not. 2. Accept whatever we hear and have an open mind. We must be able to hear that the other has murdered someone w... more...