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Personal Development » Advice | By Mike Shery @ Monday, 12th May 2008 @ 4:16 PM

Large numbers of people are involved in marital infidelity. In fact, recent data suggests that approximately 45% of women (and that statistic continues to increase) and 59% of men at one point participate in marital infidelity. That means that the shocking reality is that 80% of todays marriages will have one spouse, at one time or another, involved in an extramarital affair. That may appear to be a huge number. However after thirty years of practice as a psychologist and family... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Rosamunde Bott @ Monday, 12th May 2008 @ 12:29 AM

It's a word we use constantly. Authors of self-help books use it in their titles all the time. If you are a human being with any kind of goal or project, you want it. But what does it actually mean? How do we define success? We may all want success, but we don't all see it in the same way. One person's success may be another's failure. Some people would be very happy to get a B in exam. For some people, anything less than an A is a failure. What does... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Mike Shery @ Sunday, 11th May 2008 @ 10:50 AM

Trying to save your marriage on your own very often does not work or get at the truth. It is a band-aid that fails to alter the underlying dynamics of your relationship. Trying to change the relationship on your own is usually focused on changing your partner or trying to please him or her. Unfortunately, this only leads to a deeper sense of being stuck. For the best and fastest results,do not work on the relationship by yourselves. Here's my mantra: Get marriage counselin... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Kevin Sinclair @ Wednesday, 7th May 2008 @ 6:02 PM

There are times in life when your self confidence will take a hard hit. Sometimes you are able to overcome life's challenges, while other times you simply feel overwhelmed. Sometimes, your confidence and courage will see you through. However, there are times when your self confidence will take a beating. Therefore, it is extremely important that you remember "Nobody can hurt you without your consent." The impact the problem has on you, is not nearly as important as the impact y... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Rachel Yoshida @ Tuesday, 6th May 2008 @ 8:36 AM

In the spring and summer season is when many people decide it is the right time to make a move if they are going to. The kids are out of school, the weather is better, and the possibility of finding an empty home or job might be better because other people have the same idea. The trick to moving to Miami or anywhere else for that matter is planning. It can be impossible to move at all unless you know you are going to have a job when you get to where you are going. The unemployment rate in... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Deborrah Cooper @ Tuesday, 6th May 2008 @ 3:38 AM

A young woman wrote in to my dating advice column recently and asked me: "What qualities are absolutely essential in a partner or in an ideal relationship? I have a pretty huge list and want to share some of them with you o affectionate o unconditional love for each other o emotional support, connection and harmony o caring, kind, compassionate o easygoing, calm o stability, commitment, loyal o understanding, accepting (accepts me as I am)... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Mike Shery @ Sunday, 27th April 2008 @ 8:12 AM

When trying to get your spouse back do not say, I have changed! Thats right. In an attempt to persuade your spouse to stop an affair or mend your relationship, you may want to use the following ploy: I am not the person I used to be. I have changed and I am different. Well,it may be true in the sense that your behavior may really be different, these days at least a lot of the time. After all, you may find yourself attempting to accommodate your spouse in ways you never tried b... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Warren Wong @ Sunday, 27th April 2008 @ 1:37 AM

"Don't Criticize, Condemn, or Complain" - This is the central piece of advice given in How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. I remember reading this last year and thinking, 'Sounds like good advice. How hard can that be?' Alas, actually doing this is much harder than it seems. I take this particular piece of advice to mean that we shouldn't try to change what other people do. Since other people are doing what they'd like to do at any gi... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Mike Shery @ Sunday, 27th April 2008 @ 12:40 AM

Are you worried that your partner may be cheating on you? The following are tell-tale signs that frequently appear when someone is having an affair. 1. You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy. 2. Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you because they either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible partner you are. 3. Your partner stops confiding in and seeking advice from you. 4. You... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Kevin Sinclair @ Friday, 25th April 2008 @ 4:18 AM

Self-esteem is a hot topic when it comes to self-improvement. The definition of self-esteem is extremely simple to understand - it is an accumulation of the feelings that you have regarding yourself as a person. It is also the opinions that you hold about yourself as well. Throughout history, there have been a number of books, articles, and other types of literature on the subject of self-esteem. If you do a basic search on any major search engine on self-esteem, you will quickly find millions o... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Kevin Sinclair @ Thursday, 24th April 2008 @ 4:23 AM

Aromatherapy's promising beginning was around 5000 years ago in Egypt and the way it was used then is practically identical to how it is used nowadays, namely as a health and beauty aid. Even now we are still using quite a few of the combinations of essential oils which were prescribed back then by the Egyptians. Until antibiotics made their appearance in the medical field, aromatherapy was still considered a feasible treatment for many different kinds of ailments. However, due to ... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Mike Shery @ Monday, 21st April 2008 @ 11:36 PM

If you recently discovered that your spouse cheated on you, you are probably devastated, hurt, furious or some combination thereof. You are probably nervous, preoccupied and wondering what you should do. Should you stay? Should you go? Or, should you ask your spouse to leave? When confronted with extramarital affairs, the first thing people feel is often knee-jerk reactions such as, hurt, rage, despondency or disbelief. If you are in this nerve-wracking situation, keep the follo... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Kevin Sinclair @ Saturday, 19th April 2008 @ 1:51 AM

Professionals have been studying self-esteem all throughout history. It has been established that this is simply a state of mind. When an individual has high self-esteem, it can produce many positive feelings. Examples of these feelings include happiness, confidence, and even simple cheerfulness. However, if an individual suffers from low self-esteem, the impact that it places on the mind is extremely negative. Feelings of worthlessness, unhappiness, and disappointment are often common in the in... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Steven Fu @ Thursday, 17th April 2008 @ 4:07 PM

Two days ago I had lunch with a good friend of mine. Throughout lunch, he looked tensed and worried. When I enquired, he said that he had done some work worth about $26,000 for a public listed company. However, they have yet to pay him and the jobs had been on-going for the last few months! I almost choked when he told me that! I said, "What is wrong with you? Have you sent in any reminders, or at least spoken to the accounts people?" He shook his head; he said, since they were a ... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Kevin Sinclair @ Tuesday, 15th April 2008 @ 7:29 AM

There is one activity that every one of us should be doing every day and that is meditation. As you look at your day, the demands that are placed on you and the never ending "To Do" list you may scoff at the idea of taking time to meditate. Did you know that daily meditation can help reduce stress, and improve your overall physical and mental health? All you have to do is take the time, five minutes, and your mind will begin to function at the highest performance levels, staying mentally... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Justin Verrengia @ Thursday, 10th April 2008 @ 7:44 AM

Lets begin with this famous quote by H Jackson Brown. "Don't say you don't have enough time, you have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson and Albert Einstein." Within each of us there is a financial thermostat. This gauge determines our financial aptitude for our futures. Some of our gauges determine we'll make no more than $30,000 a year, while others det... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Roberto Bonomi @ Wednesday, 9th April 2008 @ 7:04 PM

Where does the fear of critic come from? In fact nobody knows what originated this fear, but we know that the human being suffers it in a very widespread way. Perhaps this is a consequence of our daily fight for the status, and either we know that other ones are really worth more than us, or they find something to criticize in us. This fear so ingrained in the human being and that so much good would make us take out from us it is on the other hand a very important element to keep ... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Deborrah Cooper @ Friday, 4th April 2008 @ 6:23 AM

After six months (or even years), the man of your dreams, the sweetest guy in the world suddenly needs space. You've noticed a change lately...he's been unhappy, uncommunicative, argumentative. Sex has dropped off to the point and he is either not interested or "too tired" most of the time. You begin to wonder if he is seeing someone else. He doesn't care what you think and no longer tries to please you. He may have begun to become somewhat rude - calling you ... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Kevin Sinclair @ Friday, 4th April 2008 @ 6:14 AM

Are dream killers present in your life? People who discourage you when you are attempting to make changes within your life are classed as dream killers. You will be amazed at the quantity of people that inform their friends and family that they cannot succeed. Unfortunately, this especially rings true when you are attempting do undertake something "outside of the box" such as starting your own business or making money online. The main disagreement that these dream killers have... more...

Personal Development » Advice | By Lee Heather @ Wednesday, 2nd April 2008 @ 12:48 AM

Much has been written and reported about remote viewing on the internet in the last few years some of it accurate and some of it just plain nonsense. I personally trained a s a remote viewer in the United States back in 1996 and because of that I feel I can add some authenticity to this topic. Firstly most people have by now some knowledge that the CIA developed the use of extra-sensory perception to augment their intelligence collection capabilities during the cold war. The truth is that the pr... more...