The Pleasure Of Anal Sex
By Fred Smith
For men and women who want to try anal sex, there can be all kinds of reasons. For some men and women it's a throwback to childhood naughtiness and the excitement of playing with a forbidden part of the body. For others, anal sex can introduce a new element of excitement into their sex lives. Sometimes, the attraction is the thrill of entering a part of the body which produces tight sensations of pleasure around the penis unlike any other form of sex. Certainly for many men, as the huge quantities of anal porn on the market show, there is an irresistible attraction to the female bottom - it is a powerful sexual signal, and the idea of entering that tight forbidden place can be extremely exciting. And for women there is always the sense of pleasing their partner, the excitement of trying something new in a safe relationship, and of course, the exploration of new feelings. But the point really is irrelevant - if you want to try anal sex, it's just like any other type of sex: if it appeals, and you are both in agreement, go ahead and enjoy. But for the sake of your relationship, do it in a fun, playful way with no pressure and no recriminations if it doesn't work!
According to one survey, over 60% of women and men have tried anal sex. But if your partner is really resistant, try discussing it with them, telling them why you'd like to try it, and maybe pointing them to this web page so they can read about it before trying it out. It's probably fairly obvious why many men like the idea of anal sex, but one question that often comes up is how much pleasure the woman gets from it....and that depends on how relaxed she is about the idea.
In both sexes, the anus is surrounded by thousands of nerve endings, which interconnect with the nerves of the vagina and clitoris or the penis and prostate, so the anus can play a role in sexual arousal and excitement. It's unlikely a woman would orgasm through anal stimulation, but she could certainly feel pleasure from the erotic sensations of anal stimulation, and the excitement of being penetrated. In addition the wall of muscle between the rectum and the vagina is thin enough so that pressure sensations from a finger or penis can be transmitted through into the vaginal canal. This is often an interesting and different sensation for a woman during lovemaking.
I guess you might well be thinking of anal sex in terms of a man penetrating his partner. And of course that is very pleasurable. But it is also very pleasurable for a man to accept anal penetration with, say, his partner's finger, so that she can massage his prostate gland through the wall of his rectum. The prostate gland lies just inside the rectum, just beyond the anal canal. Massaging it can produce all kinds of wonderful sensations, increase the amount of ejaculate he produces, and make his orgasm much more intense.
A note about hygiene. You're always going to want to do is wash your anus before you get down to sex. As you wash you can also run a finger up and around just inside the entrance to the anal canal. Most people can happily enjoy anal sex play if they have been to the toilet earlier that day. Of course, there is always the option of having a small douche or enema before you start to play: this is easy with a suitable douche kit. The standard warning that everyone gives when they talk about anal play is not to use anything (finger, condom, penis, dildo) in the vagina that you used in the anus, in case you transfer any bacteria that create a vaginal infection.
The simplest position for most couples is for the partner who's receiving anal stimulation to be on their back, legs spread and knees pulled up. It's a bit like the position a woman's in when a man licks her clit and vagina, but as most men know, this can lead to a very sore neck! So put a pillow under their butt to lift them a little.
The next position is on hands and knees - doggy style. Your partner's ass is even easier to get to than it is in the position above, but staying in this posture can be tiring, which might make their ass tense up a bit. This is probably bad, as it means you're less likely to get into it. Try putting some pillows under their chest or belly, so they have some support while they are kneeling. And knees pads are useful too! It will also be easier to get to their ass if the kneeling partner extends their legs a bit sideways and backwards.
The third realistic position is to have the receiving partner lying on their side. Their legs should be in the scissors positions, with one perhaps extended more than the other.
A fourth possibility is to have one partner lying down while the other lies on top of them and enters from the rear.
Lubrication is essential for anal sex. Oils like massage oil are good for anal play, but of course they will destroy latex condoms, so maybe the better option is a water-based lube like Astroglide or Probe, both of which are very good. If they dry out, you can just add a bit of water and they are back to slipperyness. The maxim if you're penetrating is - too much lube is just about enough! Well, that's what people say, but in practice as long as you use a generous dose, and add more when your partner asks for it, which may be frequently, you (and they) should be fine. But there is no natural lube in this part of the body, so don't try anal penetration unless you have lube at hand. Certainly if somehow you do get in there and then withdraw without adequate lubrication, your partner will be in some discomfort.
Watch out for more information on how to enjoy anal sex in part 2. Find it by searching on Anal Sex Advice Part 2.
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