Communication Skills Tips that Can Improve Your Relationships Instantly
By Richard Goodfriend
Personal and Business Communication Skills can always be improved. In this article you will learn easy skills to practice that may help anger management, conflict resolution and improve your relationships. Just using one of these skills can build a better connection with your family, friends and business. Don't just read this article, try the suggestions as soon as possible and watch your communications be easier and of more quality
Before communicating with any of your family members, try asking yourself the questions below. If you say no to anyone of these steps, your communications with the other may be in jeopardy. Take a few minutes before speaking with the other and ask yourself:
1: Is my intention really to communicate with the other or to get only my needs met?
This means do I really want to understand my children, spouse and friends or do I just want to be heard or get my needs met? This is important to identify before we say one word to another person.
2: Do I really want to hear this person or fix the situation as quickly as possible?
If you really want to be listened to, it is better to hear the other person first. If you can really listen deeply, offering empathy to the other, they will hear you with more patience and understanding when you speak. Empathy is a deep understanding what another may be going through. It is important to give the other attention first then express yourself.
3: Do I really have the patience and time to listen to the other person?
The second ingredient to listening well is focusing. Can I really listen to the other and focus on them. This is trust building when they can speak with out the listener’s fix it language. Fix it language can be sympathy, unasked for advice, story telling after you interrupt them and any time you take the focus off of them and on to you.
4: Am I willing to express myself honestly and not blame the other for my feelings?
This may be difficult not using blame, shame, guilt, or fear in your conversation. The most important way to express what you want is to express your need and a request. Even better add an observation, saying what you are referring too. Make facts that both of you could agree on. The easiest way is to use a quote.
5: Do I already have a strategy or do I want to come to a consensus with the other?
If you already have a strategy when you first start communicating, let it go. After you have heard the other person thoroughly your strategy will probably change. It is funny how it works yet you may have a brand new suggestion after understanding them.
So take it slow, focus because we listen too fast. Watch your communications become more fun and trust building. Yes, these communication skills and tips may be used in business.
About the author
Personal and business communication skills is never an easy subject, yet Rick Goodfriend wants communication with others to be easier, more satisfying. Rick Goodfriend is founder of World Empathy Day where you can find many more tips on relationship communications and how to solve difficult challenges. A CD written by Rick Goodfriend on creating instant calm is at http://walkyourtalk.org/indexCD1.htm .
Additional Business and personal communication Skills are at http://walkyourtalk.org/ where you may sign up for weekly communication tips, teleclasses and workshops. Successful communication with anybody is possible with the proactive skills taught. Rick Goodfriend is also a co-creator and host of a television show on proactive communication and resides in Santa Barbara, California continuing to surf, hike and practice personal communication skills.
Rick Goodfriend is also a certified corporate speaker and can provide keynotes, trainings and consultation for your business or organization.
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