Best Friend For Keeps
By Jim Brown
I won my best friend within seconds of simple interaction. I was back in college then, fresh from high school with no knowledge of city life at all. But due to that single, seconds of interaction, I have won over a best friend to keep and cherish for life.
First stop, all I did was smile. It was the kind of smile with no hidden agenda or whatsoever and the kind of smile from a pure heart. I don't understand why some people find it hard to smile. Smiling is the best gift one can give to another person.
If you get rejected, it's fine, smile some more. I got rejected so many times before; my smile went unnoticed for times that I lost count. But this smile has won several hearts too. Some of them stayed long and some for a while but it is the nature of relationships, it comes and it goes living only footprints in your heart. To think deeply about it, this smile that I always have is how I had won the heart of my husband and was given the privilege to keep him.
Second, be yourself. Never pretend to be someone you are not. Don't act to be tough if you really aren't. Don't say things which aren't true. You can fool some people some of the time but you can never fool all people all of the time, at least that's what I learned back in my Philosophy subject. And worse is you can never fool yourself.
If you find it is the easy way to win friendships, you will also realize it is the fastest way to loose them in the end. You don't only pretend to them, you also pretend to yourself. You can fool some people some of the time but you can never fool all people all of the time, at least that's what I learned back in my Philosophy subject. And worse is you can never fool yourself. If you find it is the easy way to win friendships, you will also realize it is the fastest way to loose them in the end. You don't only pretend to them, you also pretend to yourself.
I still remember how some people especially girls ignore me back in high school because I blend perfectly well with guys. Maybe because I pose a threat to their potential mates (at least that's how I think about it). And who I was then is still the same as I am now. What can I do? That's who I am. That is what gives my heart contentment. But also because I have been true to myself and to others, I have won friends that are for keeps. It is just as good as saying,"You Reap What You Sow"
Third, be a good listener. If someone got something to tell, listen as if your interest is unwavering. Listen with all your hearts content. This is the best way to communicate. One does not only talk in conversations. One needs to listen too. This is important to achieve better understanding with of one another.
Fourth and final step, give it all your best shot. There is no other way to do this than to render yourself vulnerable to pain and open to rejection. Relationships are never easy to keep. It entails courage to face pain. It takes discipline to accept the frailties of another. And it takes love to truly keep them. Relationships bring you pain. It gives you moments of sadness but what really matter is that when you surpass these moments, rest assured that you can surpass whatever lies ahead.
They say you can never truly love another if you have not come to love yourself. This is true. In fact, it is so true that you can never truly perform all the necessary steps mentioned to win a friend. This is important to build a good foundation in relationships. Many commit mistakes by skipping some steps needed and what they amount to would be broken friendships. Therefore, learn to love yourself first.
About the author
James Brown writes about Beyond Bedding web code, BabySuperMarket.com coupon and One Step Ahead coupon from http://www.FreeArticlesAndContent.com
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