Finding the G-Spot
By Topaz Moon
Finding the G-Spot
by Topaz*
Some will argue that it doesn't exist...that it hangs out with the Loch Ness monster. I am here to tell you that the G spot absolutely DOES exist and I'll help you flesh yours out, so to speak. First a little biology lesson...
During conception, the sperm determines the sex of the embryo. If it's an X sperm, the embryo is female. If it's a Y sperm, the embryo is male. The genitals are undifferentiated. If Androgen is released, the embryo develops into a male, if there is no androgen, the fetus develops into a female. The X or Y chromosome determine whether or not the androgen is released. What does this have to do with the G-spot? I'm getting there... Many experts believe that in the undifferentiated genitalia exists material that will either become the prostate gland, in the case of the male (which we can not deny exists) or it becomes the G-spot, in the case of the female. Here is a biologically based argument for the existence of the G-spot so lets go find it, shall we?
Here we go... First I'm going to have you prove to yourself that you have a G-spot. For the partners reading this, hold off helping your sexy lady find her G-spot. This is a solo experiment for now-you can join in later. Grab an appropriately shaped toy to facilitate the location of the G-spot. I suggest one shaped like this (go to www.orgasmshoppe.com and scroll down to see the photos)
Find a comfortable, private location where you will not be disturbed (e.g. go into the bedroom and lock the door while no one is home). Lie on your back and prop yourself up with some pillows. First insert one or two fingers so that they are touching the top of the vaginal wall (as if you were sticking your fingers in your vagina and trying to touch your navel). For more clarity, look at the diagram at the bottom of the home page at www.orgasmshoppe.com.
Feel around a few inches inside for an area of skin that might feel a bit different (maybe a bit spongy). It can also change texture size during different phases of excitement. Use different pressures and different movements (circular motion vs. back and forth etc). If you put pressure on the spot you might feel like you have to urinate-that feeling will likely pass though. Feel around for a bit- don't get discouraged if the skin doesn't feel any different...We'll be bringing in the big guns next...
Now, grab your toy and some lube (if needed...). If you just use the dildo as you normally would, you wont know for sure if you are having a clitoral orgasm or a G-spot orgasm. Here's the trick. With one hand get ready with the dildo. With the other hand, at the top of the labia majora, separate the lips so that they are not able to rub on the clitoris. Many times during sex we have clitoral orgasms by the indirect rubbing/pulling of the skin around the clitoris which stimulates the clit and causes the orgasm. We want that area to stay stationary.
Once you have secured the clitoral area, take the dildo and insert it (about 2 inches but every woman is different) in the vagina with the bend directed at the front wall of the vagina as described above. Rub gently, using your creativity (and fanticizing if you like) but be sure to keep that clitoral area stationary. Do not force anything-take your time and enjoy every thrust. If you have an orgasm without the clitoral area being stimulated, guess what?? You just had a G-spot orgasm. If you do not orgasm, don't be discouraged-it might take a few tries. Finish yourself off clitorally if needed. Once you are done with your self-pleasuring, pee, wash and dry your toys and have a nice day!
Keep some mental notes as to the depth, angle, texture, etc... you will need to communicate this information to your partner so they can play "Find The G-spot" too! One of the most important parts of your sex life is communicating your needs. Do NOT be shy and for goddess sake, do not fake an orgasm. You'll never have the hot sex life you want if you don't communicate your wants and needs to your partner.
(Urinate before and after you play with toys or have sex. It lowers the likelihood of bladder infections from bacteria getting into your urethra and finding it's way to your bladder. This is just a good general practice.)
* We are not medical professionals. The information herein is food for thought. It is not meant to address any medical, psychological or any other illness or condition. This is a great place to listen to the thoughts and opinions of others. We are not responsible for what you do with this information. If you have any questions about any of the information on this site, consult your physician!
About the author
Topaz is an Adjunct Professor who teaches a variety of subjects including Human Sexuality, Psychology, Education classes, and Alcohol, Drugs, and Behavior. She has been a private educator and counselor for over a decade. Topaz is here to share her expertise with us at (Orgasm Shoppe)http://www.orgasmshoppe.com as the Editor in Chief of the site as well as handling the "Ask the sExpert" questions where she privately answers your most difficult questions about sexuality, relationships (with significant other(s)/family/friends/boss/coworkers/etc), and other related topics. If you are not sure Topaz is the right person to answer your question, Email orgasmshoppe@gmail.com and ask if your question is within her pervue.
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