Extreme Confidence Is A Feeling That Can Be Yours
By Alan Densky
Self-confidence can be defined as the capacity to trust oneself and one's abilities. This attribute is essential to one's achievements during one's lifetime. This quality assists people to understand that they are worthwhile and that they are capable of succeeding in their endeavors. Even those who lack this trait can begin to boost their self confidence.
Without self-confidence, many people find themselves powerless to achieve life ambitions. They are often ineffective in relationships, academic endeavors, and work situations. They sometimes develop a social phobia, and become awkward in social encounters. Individuals who lack self-confidence frequently hesitate to try to set or work toward goal achievement; they become convinced that they are about to fall short. They become sure that they are not as good or as capable as those around them. They typically do fail because they do not trust themselves.
In contrast, the person capable of gaining self confidence will be equipped to reverse this downward spiral and learn to find healing from this social phobia. This person then learns that building self confidence causes remarkable improvements in relationships and academic achievements. At times, an employment prospect can occur because of actions taken to boost self-confidence.
Individuals sometimes do not develop self-confidence for a number of reasons. They may have had overbearing parents, or been teased often during their school years. Some struggled academically or socially. Others just did not have success at making friends or encounter the reassuring encouragement of peers, parents, or teachers. Many of these people fight against a self-image of inferiority and incompetence.
Frequently, people who were unable to improve self confidence during childhood are unable to do this as adults. They have not learned how to accomplish this, and usually learn only when they look for the assistance and support of friends or trained professionals. Too often, people are ashamed to admit these difficulties in their lives, and simply continue to strive during their lifetimes.
A number of treatments have been utilized to help people to gain self confidence. Quite a few styles of counseling therapies, like cognitive therapy or group therapy, may be used to teach clients how to improve self confidence. Numerous self-help guides have been published to encourage clients to improve self-confidence. Therapists even provide instructional sessions and retreats developed to help people increase self confidence.
Although all of these techniques can be beneficial, two alternative approaches that are not difficult to learn and quite effective for the majority of clients who use them are confidence hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Experts who practice confidence hypnotherapy are often able to coach clients to develop self confidence and radically upgrade both their perspectives and their abilities to succeed in life.
Traditional hypnotherapy (employing post-hypnotic suggestions) may be very effective. It is most helpful with those who are suggestible and easily led. This treatment typically does not work as well with clients who tend to be methodical or are critical thinkers.
For those who fit this latter category, Ericksonian hypnosis and NLP approaches work much better. These approaches are great for successfully relating to the unconscious mind. This is because the resistance typically offered by analytical persons to suggestiveness is bypassed.
An NLP strategy that clients are frequently taught to build self confidence is known as anchoring. If a person encounters an old song, and has feelings of deja vu, this is because the unconscious relates the emotions from a past time, with the music that was playing. Therefore, hearing the song again triggers the feelings related to it. The song anchors those emotions.
With anchoring, clients are regressed to a time that made them feel the emotions of confidence. As they remember and re-experience those feelings, they learn to touch two fingers together. The unconscious then associates the sensations of confidence with this physical action.
After anchoring the emotions of confidence, when they find themselves in situations that demand self-confidence, anchoring triggers emotions of confidence for use in the present situation.
An alternative NLP technique called the "Flash" can be used to immediately substitute stressful emotions sometimes related to low self-confidence. Through this method, the mind uses the mental pictures that create negativity, to trigger visual pictures to create a constructive response.
For instance, the person programs the unconscious to use the mental cues that trigger emotions of uncertainty, as triggers for mental cues that precipitate emotions of confidence. Mental images trigger an individual's emotions.
We all have goals, and aspirations. Some people can work toward these to accomplish their dreams. Sometimes, however, people let their lack of self-confidence to overpower them. Although NLP may not help everyone, the overwhelming majority of clients who try this technique report significant success in self confidence. This strategy is actually more beneficial than other approaches for most people.
Summary: Individuals who do not have self-confidence typically have difficulty succeeding in many areas of their lives. A number of components cause individuals to develop social phobias or feelings of incompetence. Many therapies can assist individuals to build self-confidence. NLP is well-known to be highly beneficial by the majority of clients who have tried this technique.
About the author
Alan B. Densky, CH is a certified hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner. His website offers hypnosis CDs for self confidence. His Self-confidence CDs were tested by Personal-Development info in England. Visit him for Free hypnosis & NLP newsletters and MP3s.
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